“When the past calls let it go to voice mail – It’s got nothing new to say.”
While you can’t completely stop the negative self-talk, you can work towards a new reality where you stop believing it.
Simply recognize that your brain is like a crazy, monkey that says really stupid things, and that you really shouldn’t take seriously.
What unsupported thoughts are you hearing on repeat in your mind? What self-defeating, abusive and limiting statement is your brain trying to convince you (or have convinced you) to be true? Stop for a minute and reflect. Take inventory. Take notice. Then shine the light of awareness upon it. When we are facing the light, the shadows must fall behind us.
Here are some common thoughts:
I’m not good enough. I’m ugly.
I’m too fat/tall/short/young/old. I’m stupid.
He/she’ll never love me. I am not lovable.
I am a bad parent. I am a horrible person.
There is something wrong with me. I never have enough time.
I don’t deserve … I can’t …
All of these (and more) are illusions fabricated by our mind, which significantly limits our capacity to fully enjoy life.
Let these negative thoughts just GO TO VOICE-MAIL.
Back on Track: Getting kids ready for the new school year – Starting school usually means two things to kids: First, a change from a slow summer pace to a getting-out-the-door-by-8-A.M. routine; and second, adjusting to a new classroom or school, teacher, friends and academic challenges. All parents want the morning routine to go smoothly, and their child equipped to manage any change presented without resistance or emotional upheaval. Here are tips for getting kids ready for the new school year.
- Explain how life is going to change. A week prior to the first day, offer a precise description of the morning routine: “I’ll wake you up at 7 o’clock, you need to be dressed by 7:30 for breakfast. I expect you ready with your backpack, lunch and coat to walk out the door at 8 o’clock.” Young children need practice. For some, a pictorial chart including each step really helps.
- Start getting kids in bed early. Begin a week before school gets underway. You can’t force them to sleep, but you can see they’re snuggled in bed looking at books.
- Get yourself up and ready first. If you work outside the home, this step is crucial. All goes more smoothly those first days when you’re available to guide your children each step of the way.
- Give reminders. Most kids learn to move through the morning routine in a timely fashion. Others need reminders until high school graduation: “I think you forgot to brush your teeth.”
- State the obvious. “Your coat is on, now put on your shoes.” Later, give one-word directives. Just say “shoes,” or ask, “What are you supposed to do next?”
- Avoid yelling and harsh treatment. Negative ingredients can quickly become embedded in the routine. No parent likes sending their child out the door after a screaming match.
It Is A Good Day To Have A Good Day!
Have you ever caught yourself saying any of these statements?
Today has been a good day!
Today has been a terrible day!
I can already tell this is going to be a difficult day!
All of us would agree it’s great to have a good day, but we know that’s not always the case. At some time or another we have muttered every one of these statements about the kind of day we are having or about to have. We’ve been there and done that!
This is the day the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it. ~ Psalm 118:24, NIV84
You can look forward to every day in God’s strength. He’s the one who made it!
Here are some other helpful ideas to have a good day:
- Smile and be kind.
- Have a good night’s sleep.
- Begin the day with a glass of water. Eat breakfast.
- Eat breakfast.
- Invite friends over, talk, and relax.
- Be spontaneous.
- Don’t concentrate on the negative.
- Do something you’re scared of.
- Even if you don’t feel like it,try to be nice to everyone.
- Do what’s necessary first.
- Be respectful, and have good manners.
- Balance. Throughout the day, good and bad things will happen. A day can never be completely good, or bad.