Why Speaking Well of Your Spouse Is So Important

couple togtherWhy Speaking Well of Your Spouse Is So Important – As a leader, the health of your marriage directly affects the impact of your leadership. I have witnessed this time and time again. Being effective at work or in ministry begins by being effective at home.

Early in our marriage we met a couple as we got better acquainted with him and his wife, we started noticing a disturbing trend. They would often make disparaging remarks about the other in public.  At first, it seemed cute.  However, over time, they became more pointed, thinly masking their frustration with one another.  Years later, we learned they suffered an ugly divorce, both admitting to multiple affairs. They lost their family, and, of course, their ministry. To this day, it grieves me to think about it.

Conversely, I noticed a husband that always spoke highly of his wife. He would often say, “I hate to leave her in the morning, and I can’t wait to see her in the evening.” They have been married now for nearly 60 years. Last time we were with them, they were holding hands. It was obvious they were still in love.

In reflecting on these two experiences, I am convinced that praising your spouse in public is one of the most important investments you can make—in your family and in your leadership.

This is important for at least five reasons:

  1. You get more of what you affirm. Have you ever noticed that when someone praises you, you want to repeat the behavior that caused it? This is just human nature. It can be a powerful way to motivate others when it is authentic.
  2. Affirmation shifts your attitude toward your spouse. Words are powerful tools. They can create, or they can destroy. They can build up, or they can tear down. If you start speaking well of someone, you start believing what you say.
  3. Affirmation helps strengthen your spouse’s best qualities. Encouragement is also a powerful force for good. This is why when we are losing weight and people notice, it gives us the strength to stick with the program.
  4. Affirmation wards off the temptation of adultery. When others see you are happily married, they are less likely to proposition you. It’s like a hedge that protects your marriage from would-be predators.
  5. Affirmation provides a model to those you lead. To be a truly effective leader, you must lead yourself, and then you must lead your family. Your marriage is a powerful visual of how you treat the people you value the most. When you speak highly of your spouse, your followers are more likely to trust you. It takes your leadership to another level.
    Affirming your spouse in public is an investment that pays big leadership dividends. In a world where fewer and fewer marriages last, it can be a difference-maker.

Reasons to Celebrate Today

family fudgeJuly 18th is Perfect Family Day – Does anyone have a perfect family? Maybe most of us can only claim to put the “fun” in “dysfunction.”  What would a perfect family even look like?
June 18th celebrates perfect families – or perhaps even less-than-perfect families. What a perfect occasion for a family picnic, a family bike ride, a family beach outing or another family event.
Notable Anniversaries Today:
The famous Oscar Meyer Wienermobile first appeared on American streets on July 18,1936, created by Carl B. Mayer.
Kellogg’s Tony the Tiger made the scene on Frosted Flakes cereal boxes on July 18, 1952.

Attitude Choice Life, What have you learned from your parents?

Power Thoughts

  • “Your Attitude + Your Choice = Your Life” – From Positively Positive
  • “If we learn to open our hearts, anyone, including the people who drive us crazy, can be our teacher.” — Pema Chödrön
  • “Nothing will change until we make the choice to redirect our misguided cravings to the only one capable of satisfying.” -Lysa TerKeurst

Today is my parents anniversary. They have been married for 43 years!  Congratulations to Dwyan & Vera Calvert!

In their honor today’s Facebook question revolves around parents… What’s something you’ve learned from your parents?

Are Spoons On The Way Out? Don’t believe it? Take notice of your place setting the next time you’re out to eat. (The Denver Post)

Devotion from the Upper Room: AFTER I moved to a new state, our cat Sara became solely an indoor cat. Her new outdoor surroundings intrigued and terrified her. Often she paces in front of the door, meowing longingly to go out. However, when I open the door, she panics and runs for safety. I’m always a little sad that she passes up potential pleasure out of fear.

In my adjustment to the move and in less obvious parts of my life, I too shrink back from opportunities out of similar fear. Sometimes those opportunities entail entering a new ministry, making a job change, or forging a new friendship. In these situations, God seems to be opening wide the door that leads toward fresh, new settings. Sadly, too often my initial response is like Sara’s — I run for safety, toward the familiar. Olive Lois Fisher (Kentucky, USA)

Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand. ~ Isaiah 41:10 (NLT)

25th Anniversary, Where Do I Go Now?, Miracle of Life, Change Your Attitude

Power Thoughts

  1. “Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.” ~ Helen Keller
  2. “Sticks in a bundle are unbreakable. ” ~ Kenyan Proverb
  3. “No one can whistle a symphony. It takes a whole orchestra to play it. ” ~ H.E. Luccock

The year was 1985. The most popular film was Back To The Future, the first .com domain name was registered, and Microsoft Corporation released the first version of Windows. Do you remember gas was dollar nine a gallon, a movie ticket was two dollars and seventy-five cents and that wasn’t the matinee price – A US postage stamp was 22 cents. And you couldn’t get in your car and listen to Christian radio!

Today, Tuesday, August 31st is the 25th anniversary of this ministry and the credit must go to our Lord! 25 years of connecting people to God, 25 years of serving each other for Life, 25 years of ministry to the area through radio and now the internet.
Many of you have been involved since that first broadcast in 1985. A lot of you have joined over the years. Thank you for your prayers and support!
Listen in for the happy birthday sounder and call in to win a Birthday Prize Pack from KSWP! One Facebook friend can also win a Birthday Present from KSWP. Just post a “Happy Birthday” message to the KSWP Facebook fanpage on August 31st and one random Facebook friend will be chosen to receive a Prize Pack. The winning Facebook user will be announced on Facebook and On-Air and that user is responsible for contacting the station to make arrangements to receive their prize. (Giveaways and Contest Rules)

Where Do I Go Now? God wants you to know exactly where you’re going in life. He doesn’t want you to be unsure of whether the steps you are taking are the right ones. In other words, God wants you to stop and ask Him for directions daily!

The Good News is that when God’s give you directions, it light to your vision. The first pre-requisite is to be born again. Once you accept Jesus Christ as Lord and Savior of your life and begin seeking Him daily, He will begin revealing your purpose to you. There is a set race for you to run, and God wants you to discover it.
“Don’t you realize that in a race everyone runs, but only one person gets the prize? So run to win!” (1 Corinthians 9:24 NLT).

Get A New Attitude: 5 tips to bulldoze a bad mood (Live RightLiveWell) The truth is, moods hinge on a precarious interaction between your physiological state, your thoughts, environmental influences and life events, according to Robert E. Thayer, professor of psychology at California State University in Long Beach and author of The Origin of Everyday Moods. To perk up your physiological state, be sure to get enough sleep, eat nutritious meals and exercise regularly. Then brighten your thoughts with these simple strategies to kick a bad mood to the curb:

Remember good times-Researchers at Stanford University found that reflecting on good memories when you’re in a bad mood can activate different parts of the brain that can influence mood in a positive direction.
Get in controlOrganize your desk. Clean out your purse. Tackling a doable task will make you feel more in control, which can lift your spirits when a situation is dragging you down, says Thayer.
Chat up a strangerWhile waiting for your latte or standing in the checkout line at the grocery store, talk to someone near you.
Acting extrovertedbeing talkative, assertive and adventurous — makes people feel happier, even if they’re not naturally outgoing, according to researchers at Wake Forest University.
Give thanksJot down a few things you really appreciate in a journal — the dinner your spouse cooked last night or how your pooch always makes you smile — and your mood will quickly take an upturn. “Gratitude has no negative side effects — it feels good to experience it and express it,” says Michael E. McCullough, professor of psychology at the University of Miami.
Stand tall-Operate on the act-as-if-you’re-happy principle until the feeling comes naturally. Research from the University of Tampere in Finland found that when people adopted a genuine smile, they started experiencing feelings of pleasure, regardless of how they felt previously. So smile, stand tall and relax your body to reflect a sunnier, easygoing disposition, and you’ll help yourself turn a bad mood into a good one.

A Great Escape and Adventure

Subtitle “We’ve Been Busy…. Michelle’s Side of the Story”

Since last week, we have been busy… last minute and quick vacation… First things first… We took a surprise and on a budget anniversary trip (3 years) in case you’re wondering.  We started off with breakfast at my favorite location… IHOP… for some french toast.  It is always awesome when your husband remembers your favorite treats.  Al had conspired with our friends (also nice when hubbies conspire to surprise) and pick a mystery Continue reading