How to Talk to Children About 9/11
The anniversary of 9/11 is always a painful one but there is also the desire to honor the dead, the families who bore the burden of the attack, and the things we stand for as a nation. We celebrate resilience and renewal even as we vow not to forget. For many younger children, 9/11 isn’t something they lived through, but a piece of history, something they learn about in school.
Here are some guidelines for talking to kids about 9/11.
- Take your cues from your child—each child, individually, if you have more than one. For those old enough to remember the events of 9/11, let them tell you what the anniversary means to them, what they remember, and how they feel about it.
- Be age appropriate. If a child is too young to remember 9/11, consider their age in deciding whether this is a good time for her to learn about it, or learn more about it.
- Don’t answer questions that aren’t asked. Children as young as first grade are learning about 9/11 in school, as an important part of our history. But there’s no reason to volunteer disturbing or frightening details unless a child has heard them and needs a reality check from you.
- Try to avoid exposing children to the intrusive, repetitive TV news coverage, especially the pictures of 9/11.
- Help them feel safe. They want to know “are we safe today?”
- Focus on resilience. If you go to a memorial, talk to kids in advance about why you’re going, focusing on honoring those who died, and celebrating the resilience of both the nation and the individual families who lost loved ones.
- Don’t focus on hatred.
- Don’t feel you have only one chance to talk about this. It’s better to think of tough issues as an ongoing conversation, which develops as kids grow and change. If you feel you haven’t gotten it right the first time, give yourself a break and try again later.
Watch Over It, Protect It, Lead it, Guide It, Sanctify It.
Men are kind of like birds…
- Some are like canaries, they sit around singing (talking) all day about what they’re fixing to do but the truth is they aren’t going to do anything but stay in the same cage as they always have.
- Then you have buzzards, they sit around squawking (complaining) all day. Nothing is ever right. They are simply feasting off the hard work of others.
- Then you have peacocks, they just want to look good, it is all about them. They are ego-maniacs.
- Then you have Eagles, you cannot cage them, they soar above the rest, they are not influenced by the world, they do not strut around trying to impress others by fluffing feathers… they know who they are & if you do not, you soon will.
- They lead by example to all others. What kind of bird are you?
They are now making square watermelons… They do this so that they can fit in the refrigerator. The way they do it is by growing them in environments that is not natural to them. As fathers, we must provide the same things for our children. We must provide an environment & show the example of what a man looks like that is willing to sacrifice & give all he has in order to shape their lives in a manner that will glorify Christ.
- It’s okay to not be perfect
- Spend time with your kids it won’t be perfect like you pictured BUT it is worth it
- Pray about your words and actions you are training them in the moment and for their adult life
- Make your child comfortable talking to you about the little things and they will trust you with the big things later
- Manage your priorities and allow time to focus on your kids – you only have a short time to train them
Original story by popular blogger Tracey Eyster – translated by KSWP/KAVX listener
MONDAY – FRIDAY PRAYER FOCUSES ON THE FAMILY
Today’s Specific Prayer Focus
Pray for foster children, orphans, adoptive parents and foster parents
Foster Care Prayer Requests
- Pray for the children entering foster care today, that they find an appropriate, kind and loving foster family to care for them until their birth families or relatives are able to do so.
- Pray for the sibling groups of children entering foster care today, that they will be placed together in one foster home.
- Pray for all the foster children in care, that their first foster home is also their last foster home, as multiple placements rob children of stability and love which is required to build the self-esteem needed to grow into responsible, caring adults.
- Pray that more singles, couples and families become foster parents.
- Pray that all children in out-of-home care will quickly return to a safe home or find an alternative permanent and loving home.
- Please pray for God’s intervention with all families to enable them to successfully complete programs for recovery, and allow the reunification of foster children to safe and caring birth families.
- Please pray that the federal, state and local governments, will see the plight of so many of our children whose families are wrecked by drug and alcohol abuse, and work toward prevention.
- Pray that God blesses all the caseworkers and staff who make decisions daily which have a huge impact on the lives of children and families.
- When a family reunification is unlikely in a reasonable time period, we pray that God’s hand guides the judges at termination of parental rights trials to make their decision in the child’s best interest.
- Pray for all those children whose birth families are unable to care for them, are freed for adoption, but have nobody willing to give them a forever home.
- Pray that foster and adoptive families and their children receive the support and understanding of their communities.
The Good Friends Question of the Day: Are you going to see “Courageous” this Weekend? What do you think makes a dad a “Courageous” dad
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How to Be a Courageous Dad: (Mark Merrill Pres. Family First)
Tony Dungy and I first met in 1997, a year after he became head coach of the Tampa Bay Buccaneers. Since that time, he and I have worked side by side helping men to be the best fathers they can be through our All Pro Dad program. Recently, Tony and I were sitting in my office talking about fatherhood. I asked Tony, “What is courage?”
“Courage is the ability to do the right thing, all the time, no matter how painful or uncomfortable it might be,” Tony said. “It takes courage to discipline at the right time and in the right way. It takes courage to say ‘no.’ It takes courage to go against the grain and say, ‘You know what, I know everybody else allows their kids to watch these television programs, or dress like that, but I’m not going to allow it.’ It takes courage to stand up for your convictions.”
I agree with Tony and would add that it takes courage for a father to:
- Create boundaries for your kids
- Discipline your children and apply appropriate consequences when they go outside those boundaries.
- Control technology, monitor electronics and establish clear guidelines for what types of TV shows and movies they are allowed to watch and the music they can listen to
- Talk to your children about intimacy and marriage
- Require your children to work
- Be a parent, not a buddy
- Ask for forgiveness when you are wrong and forgive your child when they have done something wrong
Weekend Box Office… Bob reviews The movie “Courageous” the 4th movie from Sherwood Church in Atlanta. The makers of Fireproof and Facing the Giants invite you to see their latest film. The first weekend is the most important because that is hollywood’s rule of thumb – support for movies like this send a big message. PluggedIn gave this movie 4.5 stars for family friendliness. This movie is rated PG-13 due to a few intense moments of peril at the beginning of the movie. The main characters are police officers and the emergency scene at the first of the movie could be distressing to youngsters under the age of 10. Visit Plugged In for all the details Caution: some reviews on the Plugged In site may contain mature or graphic content.
Showtimes for Courageous at Lufkin Mall 9 is 1pm, 4pm, 7pm & 10pm