When The Kids Move Away

It’s a tough reality – your kids will grow up! Since they were born you think about their every need.  You want them to be successful, respect others and get a good job but when that actually happens it can be a tough pill to swallow!  Having said “till we come to visit”with another child recently – we thought we’d share some tips on making the adjustment.  Here’s portions of a great article Ways to stay close when kids grow up and move away…

SHOW RESPECT Search for any excuse to offer a compliment. If you catch yourself being critical, make at least five positive comments or actions before the end of your call or visit. Research has shown that a positive-to-negative interaction ratio of five-to-one or better can help maintain closeness in our relationships with our children (and our own spouses, too).

DON’T GIVE ADVICE If your adult child requests your advice, say, “I’m happy to help you sort through the pros and cons, but it’s your decision to make, and I know you’ll make the right choice.”  Provide direct advice only if the adult child is about to make a massive and potentially irreversible misstep.

BEFRIEND YOUR CHILD’S SPOUSE Search for ways to support and praise your sons- and daughters-in-law — even if you don’t really care for them.  Warning: The fact that your child criticizes his/her spouse to you does not mean that you are free to criticize that spouse, too. What you take as serious criticisms might just be your child venting normal frustrations.

DON’T INTRUDE Select noninvasive communication methods like emails, messages or texts OR Care packages unexpected mail is always fun! Warning: Do not follow up your packages with calls. These calls could make it seem like you are fishing for a thank-you or an invitation to visit. Gifts are most effective as relationship builders when there are no strings attached.

It Costs Nothing To Help Someone

A man who pushed a disabled woman home after her wheelchair broke down is being praised for his compassion. 

Bilal Quintyne, 24, of Smyrna, Ga., was recently headed out for a morning jog with a friend, when he saw a woman in an electric wheelchair stranded on the side of the main road. Her chair’s engine had died, leaving one of her wheels dug into the busy street and the other planted on the sidewalk. 

“She asked if I could call for help and I said, ‘I’m in good shape. Where is your house? I’ll take you myself,’” Quintyne, an amateur boxer, tells Yahoo Lifestyle. The young man removed his shirt and began pushing the woman down the road, fighting the 90-degree heat.

A video of the gesture, shot by Quintyne’s friend, was posted on Facebook, where it sparked 2.7 million views. “God’s Plan. God’s Work. Her battery gave out and she didn’t know how she was getting home,” Quintyne wrote on the post. “God blessed me with an able body. So WE pulled her home. A mile or not I wouldn’t go home until she was home. Period.”

The pair didn’t chat much on the 30-minute trek home, but when they finally reached the woman’s home, Quintyne inquired where she was headed before getting stuck. “When I learned she was on her way to the grocery store, I offered to go food shopping for her, but she wouldn’t allow me,” he says. “She was crying, very grateful, and said that many people had driven by without stopping to help.”

Quintyne, a father to a 4-year-old son and a 6-year-old daughter explains, “I was doing my job as a man. There’s so much hatred in the world and it costs nothing to love someone. My only goal in sharing this is to restore the values we’ve lost as people.” 

After the grueling hike, Quintyne wasn’t too tired. He parted ways with the woman and went straight to the gym. 

https://www.facebook.com/ABCNews/videos/10157346207058812/

Learn To Forgive

Unforgiveness doesn’t punish the person who hurt you – it keeps you from moving on to what God wants for your life.  It works like a prison and holds YOU captive!  Give yourself the freedom to let go and move on.

In the Bible, Joseph had many people to blame and lots of reasons to be angry but he chose to forgive.

But Joseph said to them, “Do not be afraid, for am I in God’s place?
 As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good in order to bring about this present result, to preserve many people alive. 21 So, therefore, do not be afraid; I will provide for you and your little ones.” So he comforted them and spoke kindly to them. Genesis 50:19-21