When You feel Out of Control

When You feel Out of Control

Last week I was worried about Michelle, my wife. She was in Orlando, Florida with Hurricane Erma targeting her and about 800 to a thousand people in the music and Radio Industry.

I know I needed to Trust God with her wellbeing. I found out for the first time in my life, my loved one was out of reach, not safe. I couldn’t help her. She was totally in God hands.

It’s easy to say you’re going to do trust God, but saying it and living it are two different things. At one point, I literally felt helpless.

Have you ever felt like you were in a similar situation? Circumstances dictated where you were and did not allow you to help or be in control.

Maybe you’ve had a similar experience, where circumstances made you feel out of control. Call, or go on line at kswp.org/prayer or kswp.org/praise and share you Story and the outcome.

God is always so good to me! As I sought His Word, He filled me with a peace… it passed all human understanding. There was no earthly reason for me to calm down, yet, I did.

He gave me this, “And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:7 (NIV)

Michelle flew home safe the next day (Saturday)!

A Marriage of 50-50 Will Fail

A Marriage of 50-50 Will Fail

The Marriage of 50-50 FAILS
I’ve heard the experts say that you never want to marry someone to complete you – that you and your spouse should be complete people prior to marriage but I’d never heard the concept of a marriage or 50-50 effort fails but now that I think about it – that makes sense.

Dennis Rainey explains-: As we teach at our Weekend to Remember marriage getaways, the 50/50 Plan is destined to fail for several reasons:

Many people unknowingly base their acceptance of their spouses on performance. Performance becomes the glue that holds the relationship together, but it isn’t really glue at all. It’s more like Velcro. It seems to stick, but it comes apart when a little pressure is applied.

Giving is based on merit. With the “meet me halfway” approach, a spouse would give affection when they feel its earned.  Motivation for action is based on how each partner feels. Ultimately, the world’s plan, the 50/50 performance relationship, is destined to fail because it is contrary to God’s plan.

What a marriage needs is the superglue of Philippians 2:3: “Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind let each of you regard one another as more important than yourselves.” It’s what we refer to as the 100/100 Plan, which requires a 100 percent effort from each of you to serve your spouse.

The Bible describes this plan well in Matthew 22:39: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” There’s no closer neighbor than the one you wake up to each morning!  Start by stating the 100/100 Plan like this: “I will do what I can to love you without demanding an equal amount in return.” love requires sacrifice. Stick with the 100/100 Plan and you will see increasing cooperation and intimacy in your marriage.

Interview Chris Tomlin

Chris Tomlin Questions

You’ve’ been part of the passion team for years, but who’s the speaker that always challenges you everytime you hear him?

Passion Camp is coming in July 18-22 in Daytona Beach to challenge college students – has the vision of Passion changed over the years?

If you had originally met your wife Lauren when you were in high school, do you think it would have still worked out?

How did you and Lauren meet originally?

He Pushes His Wife To Save Himself

sinkingship2-ogBut Was It Wrong?

This Story Teach Us Something Very Important About Life.

A teacher was teaching her class of students when she relayed a story about a cruise ship capsized at sea.

On the ship, there was a couple that managed to make their way to a lifeboat, but then realized there was only space for one.

Although I can’t confirm whether this story actually happened or not, I certainly think we can all learn something from it.

A cruise ship capsized while at sea. On the ship was a couple who, after having made their way to the lifeboat, realized that there was only space for one person left.

At this moment, the man pushed the woman behind him and jumped onto the lifeboat himself.

The lady stood on the sinking ship and shouted one sentence to her husband.
The teacher stopped and asked: “What do you think she shouted?”

Most of the students excitedly answered: “I hate you! I was blind!”

Now, the teacher noticed a boy who was silent throughout, she got him to answer and he replied: “Teacher, I believe she would have shouted – Take care of our child!”

The teacher was surprised, asking: “Have you heard this story before?”

The boy shook his head: “Nope, but that was what my mom told my dad before she died to disease.”

The teacher lamented: “The answer is right.”

The cruise sunk, the man went home and brought up their daughter single-handedly.

Many years later after the death of the man, their daughter found his diary while tidying his belongings.

It turns out that when parents went onto the cruise ship, the mother was already diagnosed with terminal illness. At the critical moment, the father rushed to the only chance of survival.

He wrote in his diary: “How I wished to the bottom of the ocean with you, but for the sake of our daughter, I can only let you lie forever below the sea alone.”

The story is finished. The class was completely silent.

The teacher knows that the student has understood the moral of the story, that of the good and the evil in the world, there are many complications behind them which are hard to understand.

Which is why we should never only focus on the surface and judge others without understanding them first.

Those who like to pay the bill, do so not because they are loaded but because they value friendship above money.

Those who take the initiative at work, do so not because they are stupid but because they understand the concept of responsibility.

Those who apologize first after a fight, do so not because they are wrong but because they value the people around them.

Those who often text you, do so not because they have nothing better to do but because you are in their heart.

One day, all of us will get separated from each other. We will miss our conversations of everything and nothing and the dreams we had. Days, months and years will pass until this contact becomes rare.

One day, our children will see our pictures and ask: “Who are these people?”
And we will smile with invisible tears because a heart is touched with a strong word and you will say: “It was them that I had the best days of my life with.”

Feel free to share this moving tale of love and life with all your family and friends.

Portrait of a Godly Man Part 1

father with familyPortrait of a Godly Man Part 1 : A listener’s personal reflections and thoughts

I can identify with the type of man Dr. Evans talks about in this program.

While some men today are denied the chance to raise their children There are others who have this chance and miss it. I used to be that Man. I was a good dad (when I was home) but I failed as a Father.

I worked hard and provided everything for my family a nice home, good cars, anything the wife or kids wanted. I was on call 24/7/365 and made a good living. How did I fail you ask. I did not give my children what they needed a spiritual base, a foundation of stone. I was too busy. When my children were 8 and 10, I lost my job; my wife left me and took our children 6 hrs away.

As most do I had turned to God asking “what now and why me?” for the next several years I had no real control over how they were raised. When they were with me, I tried to impart wisdom but it was worldly kind of wisdom.

I eventually remarried and made the same mistakes. God was nowhere in my relationship with my wife or children. Then I started attending Bible studies with a friend and found myself under conviction. I rededicated my life. Promised God no matter what nothing was ever going to come between me and Him. I began asking my spouse to go to church with me and trying to be a spiritual leader in my home.

Within two months, she was gone. Packed up moved out and 3 months after that asked for a divorce.

My Lack of leadership in the home as Dr. Evans puts it destroyed my family twice because evidently I am a slow learner but I didn’t give up this time. I clung to God through it all. Using every chance, I got to talk to my children about how God was getting me through and how He is the only way.

God gave me another chance he brought a good Christian woman into my life. This time God stays in the middle. Are my kids where I would like spiritually? Not yet but I am seeing signs that they are listening. They are starting to attend church and I get a lot more questions about God and the Bible now. My message is that it is NEVER too late to be a man – a Godly man.